BECOMING DELUSIONAL???

I used to believe discipline meant setting goals and then demonstrating control by exercising "free will" and "choice!" If the the goal was changing undesired behavior or some undesired part of your appearance, making a simple choice would help you achieve your goal!

I've changed my thinking and here is why...1) It's unhealthy to think that a simple choice will result in a desired physical change or improvement. For example, If I turn to my boyfriend and start telling him how fat I am, it's not only negative to myself but to him too and the relationships (the self relationship and the one between two people).

Just because I decide that I'm going to lose weight/tone up/etc. does not mean I will automatically see results and/or feel better about myself. It's important that we think healthy thoughts about ourselves during the entire process of improving ourselves and our physical appearance - before we set goals, during our fitness programs AND our personal time, and even after we reach our desired "result."

2) It can create unrealistic goals, and set you up for failure. This causes further insecurity and could discourage you from doing anything positive at all. In the same example, you might start to think "because I am fat, I now have decided to not drink or eat sugar for the rest of the month. I'm, also, not going out and I will exercise daily." In reality this is oversimplifying the actual situation and exaggerating your actions to achieve desired results.

3) Are you a "delusional" thinker, as the result of these thoughts? Telling yourself something enough times, you can end up believing it. This makes it hard to have the "humility" of having a bad day OR appreciating a good day. These are the crazy expectations that make us crazy and make everything we do anticlimactic!

Identifying negative thoughts as the simple thoughts they are, and then separating the physical self from those thoughts is its own battle. A pen and paper can be powerful tools and help enlist realistic, short term positive goals, helping us rebuild confidence. When we see ourselves accomplishing makes it easier to repeat a behavior that encourages us to develop a platform for lots of life changing affirmations.

Keep your list out - post it on your fridge or your bathroom sink! Remember that often, out of sight means out of mind, and you don't want to ever lose sight of your goal(s)!! Work against our inner Debby Downer by being present, affirm your own strengths. Now we can all be on the journey to developing a more healthy self awareness!

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